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Releasing Resistance

Post by Evie on Wed May 18, 2016 1:42 pm

Dear Shine, Sparkle, and friends,

On this bright and sparkly evening I wanted to ask you about resistance. What is it really, and what causes it? - and how can we work to release it? Does working to release it work or does that just cause more resistance? What I mean is - does the release of resistance need to be spontaneous rather than something you work hard at?

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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by Sparkle on Wed May 18, 2016 3:09 pm

"What you resist persists"

We suffer because we dont accept our situation or our feelings towards something,we want things to be different to how they are.

Its not always the experience that causes us the problem its how we see it and how we resist it because we want something else, so it makes us feel bad or negative. We like to label things as good and bad.

To release resistance we must accept our situations for what they are, not label them as good or bad, embrace our experiences.

When we try to push an experience or a feeling away we just draw more experiences like it towards us because thats where our focus lies.
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by Night Eyes on Mon Jul 18, 2016 9:33 am

I still struggle to let go of resistance

urgh it drives me mad!
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by Evie on Mon Jul 18, 2016 9:46 am

^ Is it one of those cases where you have to be driven to surrender? I know very well how sometimes, you just cling onto something and the only way to stop that clinging is to have it taken from you. Or there can be other instances in which you only surrender when you have no other option -- everything starts to crumble, and then....


^It's easy to say that, harder to do...

Is there anything in particular that you're resisting that you'd like to talk about? Or would you like to discuss resistance in general from a certain angle?



Here are two clips from Adya about resistance:



@3:31 especially...
Don't argue with life...



I still have trouble with resistance. I've surrendered, but I'm back to resisting again...

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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by Night Eyes on Mon Jul 18, 2016 9:50 am

welol its a bit complicated and not something i can go into in detail

but i keep having a situation i dont want thrown at me over and over.. something i'm definitely trying to move away from and forget but it just wont go away and i'm completely miserable

but there's this fight in me that refuses to accept it. I dont want it, i'm not asking for it so why should i accept it or be defined by it?
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by Evie on Mon Jul 18, 2016 10:01 am

Yes, I understand. I feel the same way about some things. I guess the first step is to accept that we feel the need to fight the situation. Then, perhaps the next step is to move away from letting it define us. Just being in the present moment and accepting it in its entirety is supposed to work. Usually, the present moment doesn't contain all the pain and unhappiness -- we are actually thinking about something in the past or worrying about the future. But when the present moment does contain pain or something we want to run away from, the lesson from Buddhism and probably other spiritual traditions is to stay. Running away makes it worse. Just stay there with the problem. Don't resist your resistance, just watch it, and just stay there, and eventually the clouds should begin to lift....

Here is a great article from Pema Chodron: http://soulfulliving.com/learning_to_stay.htm









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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by Night Eyes on Mon Jul 18, 2016 12:30 pm

Thanks Evie

i guess some things are harder to accept than others :/
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by kazoo on Mon Aug 08, 2016 2:54 pm

This is such an important topic and honestly I've found that most LOA "teachers" don't really address it well.

I believe most of our resistance exists in our subconscious, which of course makes it difficult to address and change.

We've discussed this before:

Q: "I've done everything they said I should do but I still don't have my results. Why doesn't LOA work for me?"

A: "You must have some subconscious resistance that you need to remove"

Q: "How do I do that?"

A: "Uh...keep visualizing?"

That whole deal leaves people frustrated. I know I have been frustrated. That's why people give up. Because they are advised to continue on a path that hasn't worked so far, so MORE of something that hasn't worked isn't likely to get results.

From everything I've read, the subconscious mind can be incredibly resistant to change. If you think of our brains from an evolutionary standpoint, it makes complete sense. We are programmed for survival first and foremost and we still have vestiges of that primitive mind in there.

So then what do we do? Visualizing definitely can help. But that is mostly done consciously. I know I've never been much good at meditating, which I probably should try to practice more.

To penetrate the subconscious, something like hypnosis, subliminal messages or an NAP might work. But again the results with those things can be mixed as well.

It would be interesting to see what results everyone has had with the various ways to shifting. Ha, as mentioned in the other thread, even procrastinating about trying these different methods is a form of subconscious resistance and evidence that the subconscious mind just really doesn't want you messing with it and trying to change it.



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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by LittlemissSunshine on Mon Aug 08, 2016 3:36 pm

Well I dont think resistance is that far in our subconscious mind that we aren't aware of it. Deep down we know. Just use your emotions as your guidance system. Does it really feel good or is there a voice in the back of your mind, is there a knot in your stomache? Sometimes we just have to release some emotions to get to the core of it. What you resist persist, so you have to work through your emotions to get ahead. Once we allow ourselves to feel what ever comes up and we question it, we are letting go of the emotions at the same time.

I am working on releasing my own resistance. I know by suppressing my emotions for a long time I have messed a lot of things up. Now I am trying to work through them as they come and go without identifying with them. Hope this works, if not I have never said anything about the topic releasing resistance .... Lol.

And about the visualizing to release resistance. Well I don't agree with that. We are vibrational beings which means that we attract what we vibrate in our energy. The universe picks up on every single thing. You can visualize with a smile on your face that you want to be an airplane while deep down there is an emotion that says no you are unworthy to become an airplane and that will never make you become an airplane.... Unless you want to be a boat Wink
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by kazoo on Mon Aug 08, 2016 4:32 pm

I do think that visualizing is over-emphasized, especially for those who are new to LOA. I don't want to dismiss the power of visualizing what we want as our reality, because when we visualize it absolutely CAN help change our vibration. I just think that sometimes it's not quite enough to make a permanent change.

I do completely agree that we shouldn't suppress our feelings. But I have seen over at the other forum where people get way too mired and stuck in negative feelings and can't seem to get out. Sometimes for YEARS. I know it's hard, but just staying in a place where you can't move beyond bad feelings isn't productive. At some point you do have to say, "Yeah, I feel like crap but I can't just keep feeling this way" and you do have to recognize that honoring crappy feelings gets to be counter-productive.
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by LittlemissSunshine on Mon Aug 08, 2016 6:17 pm

Oh no I agree! Visualizing is a very powerful tool! But ... People are on the visualizing and technique aspect most of the time and then nothing happens and they wonder why. Thats always a vibrational matter you know.

And I have been listening to Abraham hicks a lot lately and havent heard her say to suppress your emotions once. She just encourages you to climb up the emotional ladder. Pick an emotion that is a bit better that you currently experience but...

Emotions/ resistance usually stick when we don't allow them. We must allow with the intention to let them go. You can release them or observe them without them overrule you. I don't know if I am making any sense... Lol ?
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by kazoo on Mon Aug 08, 2016 7:28 pm

I agree, LMS.  I think a lot of people who are introduced to the LOA by watching The Secret get the idea that that's all there is to LOA.  The Secret is a great introduction but we all know there is more to it than that.

I think it's important to release our feelings but then to not wallow in them. I think the main obstacle that people over at the other place faced.  So many of them wallowed. There were many people who were dealing with depression and overall a really low vibration and they just wanted to manifest the relationship or whatever and didn't understand that something like that couldn't come while being in such a low place and that you DO have to climb that emotional ladder first.  And depending on your starting point that can take a while.  Most of them wanted super-quick results (who doesn't!) and didn't really understand it's all a process.  

I forget the statistic but from what I remember the vast majority of what we do is being driven by our subconscious. Which is why I think addressing our subconscious along with our conscious mind can really get some fantastic results.  (I've just procrastinated with applying anything specific lately.)  

While there are some principles that apply across the board, there is no one size fits all approach, so it's best just to find what resonates with us personally and go with it.
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by LittlemissSunshine on Mon Aug 08, 2016 8:01 pm

Have you ever tried to change your believes in your subconscious mind Kazoo? I am curious about your experiences. I have tried to change my beliefs in so many ways, used subliminal messages, listened to Hypnose sessions, went to a hypno therapist ( I blocked her .. I have a very strong mind, she couldn't get through) binaural beats, oh and I say affirmations before I go to sleep, but still the fear and worry stayed. I am still working on them, so I don't know if consciously releasing them works. I do think it's works well, I fully support it, but it takes a lot of time.
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Re: Releasing Resistance

Post by kazoo on Mon Aug 08, 2016 8:23 pm

The only thing I used consistently was a NAP. I do think it helped calm my emotions (I was in the process of trying to attract back an ex and was on an emotional roller coaster!) which I do think helped me in that process. But it's hard to know for sure what I could attribute specifically to the NAP vs. other LOA stuff I was doing.

I've tried listening to self-hypnosis videos etc. but never consistently enough to expect any results.
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