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Post by Luney on Sat Jul 16, 2016 3:46 am

Sigh... I need to admit it, I'm an internet addict Sad

http://netaddiction.com/internet-addiction-test/

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/management/11-ways-to-detect-and-solve-internet-addiction.html

From now on I need to get serious and spend my only time on a computer on
4 hours working
2 hours studying
1 hour of any personal usage, such as Facebook and forums

I just feel so guilty that I am missing out on all the time with my family and I never get out of the house because I'm always on internet Shruggy smiley
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Post by Evie on Sat Jul 16, 2016 6:58 am

I'm sorry Luney, I had to laugh when I saw this subject. I had just woken up and was browsing the internet on my iPhone, thinking "gosh I'm such an addict".... Laughing

One of my goals is to cut down my internet addiction too - and use electronic devices less. This is going to be a bit difficult, though, as I use my phone to track my goals. Wink

What will you be studying? I think you've made a great internet schedule for yourself, though I don't think I'd ever manage the just-1-hour of personal usage - one hour on the net is almost nothing. What a Face But I suppose with mindfulness it's possible to make it seem longer.

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Post by Luney on Sat Jul 16, 2016 8:05 am

Haha must be a soul group thing Very Happy I was waiting for you to join me in my addict club Razz

I don't use my phone too much, but since I work online it would definitely be hard to just work and not open another window to browse social media. It feels so annoying to do task after task without at least a little "reward" Shruggy smiley

Studying probably mostly programming, although I have so many other things planned too, such as ehemm.. learning to use my camera better. Plus books to read and and... Sigh...

I'm not really sure I can actually pull it off. Maybe I need to come up with some sort of juicy reward if I can keep following that schedule hmmm
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Post by Night Eyes on Sat Jul 16, 2016 9:38 am

awww ladies!

i dont see using social media as a bad thing all the time, i think if you were neglecting absolutely everything in your life to a detrimental stage then maybe but you're socialising

rather than than these kids with their heads stuck in phones even when they're sat next to each other lol

i only come online during the daytime now, in the evenings i stay off my lappy and do other things like watch films with the kids or talk on the phone, i just check my messages on my phone.
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Post by Luney on Sat Jul 16, 2016 9:43 am

Aww yay Nighty, well done! I will try to follow your example.
I honestly tell myself all the time I'm such a tflo, I want to accomplish too much in too many things and all at the same time, but just spend time writing about it, complaining about it not being done or just organizing how I will be doing it, but never actually get to the doing part lol.
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Post by President Roosevelt on Sat Jul 16, 2016 2:58 pm

I'm sort of addicted to the internet too. I miss the old days when I only used the internet for research papers, the online dictionary, Sparknotes, and looking up upcoming video games. Now I pretty much need it for everything and being on the internet is not only unhealthy but soul-sucking.

Thankfully, I never got into the texting habit and I rarely use my Iphone, so when I'm outside I never feel addicted to the internet. Maybe that's why whenever I feel tired of the internet, I just take a walk.

A few years ago in college, I knew that being on the internet a lot was messing me up. We're hardwired to constantly be on it, to keep wading in the sea of new information, because it excites us and releases dopamine making us more obsessive about it as a pleasure seeking behavior. It's very much like porn addiction.

I decided to just walk 40 min to campus nearly everyday, write in my notebook and read my books for a few hours in the greenery, and then walk 40 min back. Maybe being in nature more might help (provided you're not on your phone a lot)? Going with the family to the zoo or beach?

I never feel guilty about being on the internet a lot, although there is a pervasive sense of meaninglessness to a lot of my internet time. Most of my guilt is in not fulfilling my responsibilities the way I would like to....in a way I think internet addiction is like an unconscious practice to help me avoid the guilt and ironically the fear driving the guilt gets bigger and bigger until it's faced. For me, I think the big idea behind my internet laziness is just procrastination which is my fear of failure. I journaled a lot about this lately so I'll have to make a post on it soon.

What helps me lately is just starting the day by being more in the present, free of electronics, and then feeling all of my emotions as they come up including the fear. And then a feeling of desire or excitement remains and that's when I start thinking of my goals from a positive perspective and building up the story in my mind about how I will accomplish them. I notice lately than when I start the mornings by just being in silence and aware of my feelings, it's like I'm more conscious of my own habits during the day.

I have "tflo syndrome" too haha, there's so much I wish I could do in a short period of time, but for now I'll just be content doing my best first. The way I see it, I'll be fine if I focus first on the most pressing goals that I do have control over, let the goals I don't have much control over right now untangle themselves with time, and devote more attention to the most passionate things when I'm not focused on the big goals - that sense of balance should keep my engine alive.
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Re: Addicts Anonymous

Post by President Roosevelt on Sat Jul 16, 2016 9:48 pm

By the way Lunar, Happy Birthday for Iris Yay!

I forgot if it was in mid-July or end of July so I had to go back on Le Cafe and check around lol

I hope today is extra happy for her, for you, and the whole family, hopefully you'll have lots of fun beach time together and some really good cake haha. You're a wonderful Mom, out of her many gifts I'm sure Iris adores you the most  Heart with flowers



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Post by Luney on Sun Jul 17, 2016 5:25 am

Awww thank you Pressie, you're the sweetest Very Happy Purple heart Purple heart Purple heart
We did have lots of cake and one of her gifts was a ball pit with balls, not sure whose idea that was Evil or Very Mad (mine) cause these balls are all over the house now.

I think for me I procrastinate with internet because chores, work and studying just seem so boring compared to social media. That and it's just a habit. Sometimes I keep scrolling through something I've read 10 times already. It's just hard to get up and leave or engage your brain on something useful (anything that requires effort really).

Today I was so planning to stick to my guns and follow my hour plan, but got sucked into Facebook chat for a couple hours straight away.
Finally I did take the kids to the park. (All by myself! In a car! In a busy traffic! Very Happy ) So I'm pretty proud of myself for facing my phobia, even if my work suffers. At least an AREA in my life is moving. Still, house is a pigsty, nothing for dinner, I haven't looked work or study yet and here I am, in the sweet sweet internet Very Happy Sigh...
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Re: Addicts Anonymous

Post by Evie on Sun Jul 17, 2016 11:00 am

@Luney wrote:
Finally I did take the kids to the park. (All by myself! In a car! In a busy traffic! Very Happy ) So I'm pretty proud of myself for facing my phobia, even if my work suffers.

Well done, Luney. Very Happy Very Happy Go go go! cheerleader

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